“Boundary” has become a buzzword, but it is sometimes misused. It’s important that we understand what a boundary is and what it is not. A boundary only pertains to what you can control: yourself! It’s important to know the difference between a boundary and a request.

I have a love-hate relationship with New Years Eve as a holiday. I love the holiday’s opportunities to reflect on the past year, cultivate gratitude for the triumphs and evolutions you experienced, and celebrate the new beginning of the next year, but I've noticed a cultural shift towards setting unrealistic, toxic, often shame-based resolutions.

Let’s face it– for anyone, life has many unpleasant and painful emotional experiences. For most, the instinct in the face of uncomfortable emotions is to make them stop, avoid them at all costs. This may work to relieve distress in the moment, but unfelt and unacknowledged emotions stay stuck and fester. They won’t leave you alone until they are truly felt. As the refrain goes, the only way out is through. No matter how unpleasant, we have to feel our feelings.

As the summer heat is still present, it’s hard to think about the approaching fall, but it is time to start considering the return to school for many families. This is a time that can be charged with many large emotions like anxiousness, worry, stress, excitement, happiness or dread. It is important to allow your child to feel valid for having any and all of these reactions.  

So often couples come to therapy to work on communication and building intimacy in their relationship. Couples struggle with how to do this, when to find the time, and where to get started. Here are three activities that can be used at your leisure:

If the idea of seeking couples therapy makes you uneasy, embarrassed, anxious, uncomfortable, or hesitant, you are not alone. There are many misconceptions about couples therapy that can prevent people from seeking help.