February often brings complicated feelings, largely because of one day in particular: Valentine’s Day. Between heart-shaped displays, dinner reservations made weeks in advance, and social media feeds full of romantic highlights, love can start to feel less like something we experience and more like something we’re expected to measure up to. Social media plays a powerful role in this pressure.

Valentine’s Day is a day of love, affection, and romance. However, Valentine’s Day does not hold the same level of fondness for everyone. Whether you are grieving, experiencing difficulties in your relationship, struggling with loneliness, feeling pressured to express love in a specific or commercialized way, or comparing yourself to others on social media, Valentine’s Day can trigger uncomfortable feelings and make for a hard day.